I would want to know if my husband were texting another woman, even if it were innocent. I would say that you must consider carefully before you make a decision. If the text was not purely innocent, then yes. If it was, or the text if iffy, than you need to decide if the consequences are worth it for all involved. It is a hard situation to be in, I wish you luck.

if u got the evidence then show it, if not then dont say nothing she might not believe u.

Thanks Mike !

First and foremost, you should have a conversation with the husband himself. Find out what his intentions are; if innocent, let him know that this first message is ok, but you'd rather he not text you in the future because it may cause confusion and/or tension with his wife. However, if he admits that he may have feelings for you, you need to make very clear to him that you have no interest in pursuing any type of relationship with him. Also, let him know ahead of time that, should he text (or contact you inappropriately in any other way) in the future, you will share it with his wife, as well as your significant other if you have one.

To determine whether you’d really like his wife to be aware after only the first occurrence, you may want to consider your relationship with her. If she is a casual acquaintance, it may be in your best interest to mind your own business. If she is a close friend or family member, on the other hand, you may want to let her know what her husband is doing (after verifying his ill intentions) to prevent further harm to their relationship – chances are that if he’s coming on to you, he’d have no problem doing the same to other women. This, although it may pain her, will allow her the opportunity to confront him and correct the problem. Some other factors to take into account might be the wife not believing you, despite your proof, or worse, if she is a good friend, feeling uncomfortable in your presence or threatened by you.

Depends what the text was about.

I have many male friends, and my husband has many female friends. All relationships should have enough trust for both parties to have friends of the opposite sex.

If you told me my husband had texted you however I may wonder why you thought it valid to tell me. Why would I care unless it was sexual? or at least you felt he was coming on to you at times. This could cause tension because I am a very jealous person whether I trust my husband or not. He often fails to notice the motives of other women and then plays into them foolishly. That angers me even if it isn't his fault.

I wouldn't feel the need to tell a friends wife her husband texted me unless the text was inappropriate, or I felt he was cheating or would cheat in the future. Otherwise, you're just stirring ..poop.

No, because that would blow the surprise birthday party for her that you're planning.

Yes you should tell her, even if it's something casual. You could simply tell her, "Dave sent a text about ____ and I told him ______."

He has to have your number though in order to text you. If you didn't give it to him, you could ask her if she did and that would open up the discussion about him texting you. I'd wonder why my spouse was texting my friend and I'd wonder how the exchange of numbers came about.

If he's outright hitting on you then yeah you definitely tell her and you keep any texts as proof. Or forward them to her and let her respond as she'd like.

You could casually bring it up if you wanted. Assuming it was an appropriate text, her husband might have actually mentioned it to her already. If it becomes a pattern, I suppose it would be okay to go ahead and mention something to her. For one message though, I'm not sure it's worth the effort.

Of course, this is assuming it was appropriate. If it wasn't, feel free to bring it up.

You should absolutely tell her. You don't owe HIM much of anything, as he thoughtlessly put you in a tough situation that you did not create. Your loyalty is to your friend. She deserves to know if her husband is keeping things from her, and the sooner the better. He may also be texting other women, or worse. If there's a problem in their relationship, the sooner it is exposed the better, before more damage can be done. If he turns out to be a miserable louse, she's better off without him, and again, the sooner the better. If you wait, and he reconsiders what he's doing and confesses to her, she will wonder why you haven't told her and you may end up looking bad. Your friendship may be in jeopardy, along with any chance you may have been part of the solution. What's puzzling me is why he would text you, knowing that you are her friend and might tell. Preserve your friendship and help your friend. The texting spouse is a wild card that is still in play, you need to draw it out.

To answer your question, I have to read between the lines. So if my assumptions don't fit, disregard my answer. First, the text was inappropriate. If it was not I don't think you would be asking this question. Second, the wife will not like the fact that he was texting you. Again, if she would not mind, you would not be asking. Third, the women is not a close friend of yours. You did not say, "My friend's..." or even "A women I know...". Forth, you do not feel the same way he feels. If you did the question would be slightly more complex then it is.

Given these assumptions, I read your question as, "If a man acts inappropriately towards me, do I tell his wife?". I would leave the wife out of the picture at this point. You are not close enough to her to discuss the situation without becoming the object of her wrath. For now, just tell the man that you found his text inappropriate and do not want him texting you again. You know he is a married man and consider his behavior wrong. Tell him if he continues you will let his wife know. This may make him think twice before texting other ladies. Keep your side of the street clean and however this develops you can hold your head high.

Forward his text to her and address it to another friend that is like one name away on your contact list. Add a message like, Can you believe he did this, (insert name of friend here)?

What did he text you? If it was something of no particular consequence there is no need to report it to all and sundry. If he was propositioning you then you should either accept or decline according to taste, and tell her or not depending upon whether you are free love hippies or up tight churchgoers.

Without the details, it's hard to answer. But I am going to venture to guess that the only reason you're asking is because you felt inside that it was inappropriate for him to text you. That means the details probably make the question.

So, not knowing the specifics, my best answer is this: mention it casually as though it's not big deal. You're talking to her on the phone and say, "Yeah, you know, when so-and-so texted me the other day, that's what he said..." something casual, in normal conversation. If she questions this, THEN say something.

But I'm coming back to this: you wouldn't be asking the question if you don't already feel there was something inappropriate about the text.

What did he say?

I think what the text SAID is more important than the fact he texted, or the question wouldn't have been asked.

I agree without knowing what the text said I don't really know what to answer. Assuming it was an inappropriate text and the context made you uncomfortable I would definitely bring it up. Be sure and have the text with you as most of the time in these situations it could back fire.

It depends, what is the reason he is texting you for?

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yes its wrong if hes married and flirting through texts but if hes not flirting dont worry about it

My brother in laws used to text me and it was always innocent but if it was not then darn straight I would tell my sisters..If is was not so innocent I would take my cell phone to my sister so she could see it with her own eyes...
friend or sister.. no difference in my mind, if its a flirty text and he is involved with a woman I know darn straight I will spill the beans..