Absolutely! Communication is the key to a happy marriage. Not to mention, the house, and therefore the decision, is half yours to make, so make your decision and let him know. If it causes a great disruption in your lives, then a compromise would need to be made, such as letting them move in, but for a limited amount of time and under certain ground rules. You must set healthy boundaries or everyone, not just yourself, will suffer.

Samid definitely said it right, absolutely tell them. If you don't then you are just ensuring your own unhappiness. That's no way to live. You can perhaps work something out. The best way to communicate is to first say your feelings, let him respond with his feelings, and then finally work out a solution that makes them both work.

If your husband is unwilling to compromise or at least make sure that you are happy too, then you need to give an ultimatum. Not a threat, but a simple: "look if you do _this_, then I will do _____"

Now, the parents moving in thing is a touchy subject sometimes. I don't know the situation but I'm sure he wouldn't let his parents just end up on the streets or something like that. Maybe allowing them to stay there one month maximum or whatever you think is fair could work. But make sure it's very clear that if they stay longer than what you decide, that you will be very unhappy.

Sometimes people just need a good kick in the butt to get back on track in life, and if him nor his parents are on track, then you better be the one to do some kicking. Metaphorically of course.

Anyways hopefully that helped you some,

James.

When such a life altering event is involved, it is not only the correct thing to do, but it is also the fairest fopr all involved.

It may be difficult to navigate the subject, but just imagine how miserable and tense the situation will be for yourself, your in-laws and your husband.

For the good of all of you, and in the spirit of open communication you must tell him. This is the only way that a healthy dialogue can be opened up on the subject and alternate solution reached. Do it before it is too late. There is no margin for procrastination here.

Moving in forever? Absolutely your husband needs to know how you feel.The Bible talks about that a home can't be run by two women.It is absolutely true.No two women think alike.If a man and woman are close and have a very good line of communication there should be no problem talking about anything.He would most likely have an opinion if the roles were reversed.
Then you have to discuss why they would even need to move in.In todays economy many people are found to be homeless.If they need help temporarily that is a different matter.
My parents haved both passed away.I would give anything to have them alive and living with me.But my Dad was so proud he would have never wanted to live with anyone,although when I divorced my ex-husband,I lived with them for quite awhile,with my 3 children.
When a man and woman marry,they are no longer two people but one.So when in doubt ask God for direction....He does answer.

of course!
If you don't let him know, there will be a lot of trouble in the future time.
He would know anyway, why not now?

Maybe there is another alternative.Is there a chance you could find a property with a Grannie flat then you and your hubby still have your own space,and maybe even make a few ground rules like what would be best times for hem to visit you if you have a really hectic lifestyle.You could ask your angels too,you may be suprised to find some help there,even if it's just to keep cool,calm and collected, rather than over emotional,as this can happen if you feel you are not being heard.

Yes! You have to talk to your husband about things like this. If you don't, he'll assume that you are happy with his suggestion & you'll end up miserable. And being miserable will eventually cause you to do or say something hurtful to your in-laws, even if you love them to pieces right now. Being miserable might even lead to a divorce. Would you want that to happen, especially if it could have been prevented by simply saying 'Honey, I don't think its a good idea for your parents to stay with us.'?

of course!! can u imagine waiking up every morning and have bf (lunch and dinner) with them when u hate the idea of having them there?? that is gonna be huge problem in ur relationship. So cook a nice dinner, use ur better dress and speak ur mind!!

My initial reaction is Yes, tell him....BUT

I don't think your question is so simple and because it is so simple kinda makes me wonder about selfish motives on your part if in fact they are in desparate need! You have not stated any reasons why it would be an unsurmountable/resolvable problem. If you have legitimate concerns present those don't whine. What if it was YOUR PARENTS!!!!

Your question also leaves me w/un-answered concerns:

----How old are you?

---Do you have minors in the house?

---How old are they?

---Why do they need to move?

---Do they expect to live w/you forever?

--Do the expect to live w/you for a week,,,a month ???????

---Are their medical concerns?

---If shoes were on the other foot how would they respond to your needs.......????

--- What about other ADULT siblings?

---Can you help them with $$$....

---As individuals how is their personalty and character....

Seems to me there are a number of options where you can help.....and you have not thought about those options!!!!!

i think you must tell him that you just DONT want them to move in..come on dear! you dont want any complications in your relationship later..its better to talk it out for once n for all rather then regretting it every single day!!!..dont be scared..just go to him and tell him..be honest, please..
just dont worry, he wont judge you on it..he'll understand, just give him some time =)

Why everybody is hairy that in=laws live with them, if they mind their own business. I have seen children living with their parents with their spouse and children with no problem. Is it a problem that the house of the husband belongs to the wife and only the wife and husband can live in? Parents do not have problem living with children and spouse. What is the problem of the children living with their parents and their spouse and their children. The children have the advantage living with their grand parents. Grand parents are not always a burden, they can be great help.

U know in most cultures except for north american it is not uncommon for family to live together... maybe they parents cant afford it financially or maybe they just wanna live out thier years with the son..... We throw old people out in the streets in north america when we should like other cultures take them in.....

yes of course you should and when you tell him he should respect your disition to it and his parents should rent a motel cause yall need to live with each other not with parents and when there tere yall cant do anything with eachother and you should tell him how you feel about ther parents