No. I've done it and it never ends well. Some people say "Once a cheater, always a cheater." I know, from experience, that it's not always true. However, the past can be a terrible thing and being hurt like that never really leaves you. Stay friends, but don't go down that road. It took me a long time to learn that lesson. No matter how much they swear they've changed or swear that they only want you...Most of the time, they are just lonely and they feel like they can manipulate you enough to put up with them until they get restless again. Sometimes, they say those things, without realizing how much they hurt you, and don't know that any relationship you try to have with them is almost always going to have this dark cloud over it. Since you're not married, let the ex go.

Not for more than a casual relationship, regardless of how much time has passed. I might date them or resume a friendship with them, but would never trust them with my affections, finances, or even allow them to share living quarters with me.

Trust is critical for a lasting relationship, and I'm of the "once burned, twice shy" persuasion. If a person is still lying or cheating when they are adults, chances are good that the habit is deeply engrained. Life is too short to invite pain into one's life, and there are so many really great people out there!

Nope. I'd like to think I never would anyway. It can't be easy to love someone one day and the next day turn away from their sad faces pleading for forgiveness. But I'd like to think I'd be strong enough.

If you go back you're asking for sadness. Your spouse has already rationalized cheating as okay once, the excuses have been made, the lying's been done, and there's nothing really stopping it from happening again. You can hope, but just know you're welcoming sadness back into your life.

No. If a guy ever cheated on me, it would show he was either not that into me to begin with, selfish, or has issues with self-control. None of those things describe a guy I'd like to date, and I have way too much self-respect to put myself in that kind of negative path again.

Relationships, like anything else worth having, are built. They require time, effort and materieles. Following that analogy, trust is like the foundation upon which the entire structure rests, and when it has been compromised it is easy to believe there is no value left in what remains. There is alot of wisdom in that, but it is the wisdom of cold, detached reason.

For myself, I have failed to be monogamous in every romantic engagement I have ever entered into, except my latest -and even that is due more to fortune than restraint. I am not proud of this. Of all the women I have been with only one has cheated on me. It occoured while I was in the Navy, on an eight month deployment. A month after she miscarried she slept with a mate of mine I had asked to check in on her and make sure she was alright, knowing I myself would be indisposed and that pregnant she would need someone. I could never have guessed how much. The same day I returned from duty, I found them sleeping together in my bed. I grabbed my toothbrush and a few personal effects and left, seeing nothing nor saying anything to either ever again -one of the benefits of being on a military base is shielding oneself completely from civilian contact. . .I don't blame her, I can only imagine how desperate she was for comfort in any form. Nor do I blame him, in a way he did us both a service because if she had been forced to find solace with a stranger it would have been worse for her surely and in a way for me as well -certainly harder to accept. No, I don't blame them, but I couldn't bring myself to forgive them either -despite the fact I had done worse to her, for less reason and more often though she never knew. Fidelity and foreign ports are a poor combination, but I am not making excuses.

You are asking a very easy question, but the subject matter is more complex. What I can tell you is that a poor foundation does not necessarily imperil everything else you have built. The beauty of love is, when coupled with honesty, it can mend any flaw. The question you need to ask yourself is do you value your relationship well enough to try and salvage it? It will not be easy, the hardest thing in the world is trusting someone in defiance of the facts, but can you love him not despite his faults, but in spite of them.

Edit: It is hard to understand, and harder still to accept, but the fact of the matter is a man's philandering has nothing to do with the woman he loves.

If the only issue in the relationship were cheating, I'd say that yes, you can take a cheater back.

However, cheating is usually a sign of something being wrong in the relationship. It's almost never about sex, though, as many would believe. Usually, it's about one person not full investing in the relationship, self esteem, self worth, inadequacy, etc.

Until THAT problem is fixed, the cheating will always loom over the relationship, and it will likely happen again.

A famous relationship counselor once said, "If he cheats once, get help. If he cheats twice, get out."

Now, I agree with this in some circumstances. If you catch him cheating, get help, get to a counselor, save the marriage if you can, etc. If he cheats again, he's gone.

However, this is only if the relationship hasn't ended already, if he hasn't moved on a chosen to be with the women he cheated with, lived with her, had a life with her, and then decides he's done with her and wants to come home.

No. That can't happen.

So in the end, if the relationship is still in tact but damaged, fix it if you can, take him back. If the relationship has already ended and you've moved on, don't go back in time.

its up to you.

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if you are the type of person that looks to the future and does not look back then it can be accomplished. However if he is different then this can bring trouble. I suggest breaking it off. Obviously if they cheated nothing was right to begin with.

Thanks Mike !

No.If my partner or husband is unfaithful or cheated, and I find out about it, I would not take him back.

I have said NO, to people that are intersted in me, because I love my husband and my kids. He should do the same thing, if another women is intereted in sleeping with him.

I only have one live to life. I am not going to spend it with a person who decides to cheat. I do not know what STD he might get and then transmit it to me.

Sadly, many times the wife or huband of the cheater is the last one to know:(

I think it so easy for us to say No!,"once cheater always cheater" ,but forget all the emotion we built up in these relationships,it so easy to walk away.I think we can be judgmental look down on women for taking cheater back,but how many people know there spouse is cheating they don't give on relationship because they have unconditional love to point of knowing,what resulted in the person to cheat.Maybe communication problems?Money?No sex life? there so many reasons ,if he is serial cheater then yes? But what if therapy could have help.There so many choices but you have to be one decide wants right for you ,no one can do that.Listen to what your inner voice is telling you.Trust your intuition it will never lead down wrong path.Once you decide you have be one live with that difficult choice.Good Luck!

Find out why he/she cheated. That will help decide an answer.