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What is the least painful way to end a friendship that you feel is no longer serving you?

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thebandit
thebandit
November 05, 2009 10:40 PM
Honestly, in this situation I'd just let the friendship fade away quietly. The most painful way would be a fight -- and that's also the least productive way. Even if a friendship isn't "serving you," however you define that, that doesn't mean that you want to become enemies. If you just gradually stop talking to the person, though, and stop spending time with the person, he or she will probably just let it happen. Absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder all the time; it's often closer to "absence makes the heart forget."

Doing this way avoids a needless conversation and allows both parties to get on with their lives. It's always going to be somewhat bittersweet, but friendships fade away all the time. Staying friends with someone you don't get along with doesn't do either of you any good. It's best in the long run to just let it end.
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keepontryi...
November 06, 2009 11:52 PM
Cold turkey. You tell them that "this is not working out any more", and you're out of there. Don't return phone calls or e-mails, and for goodness sake don't initiate contact. Althougth this may seem harsh and uneccesarily cruel, trust me, it will be quickest and least painful in the long run. Continuing to let a freindship die down only to rekindle it and go through the entire cycle again and again is drama that nobody needs. Better to walk away and carry your memories of good times with before they are overshadowed by memories of only fighting over the ending.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GNEcQS4tXgQ
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tramos
tramos
November 10, 2009 10:14 PM
Friendships like that usually just grow apart
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sabsmom
sabsmom
November 11, 2009 04:30 AM
I think if you have any kind of connection with the person your with, you should be able to have an open and honest discussion with them over your current relationship. If your honest with them about how you feel there is a lack of future between you, and that you feel you have grown apart, and that you are more like friends, then lovers, it should be able to be realized and not hurt so much to have it end. Its hard no mater how you do it, but if your honest it does not hurt for long.
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