Lying is, in a way, a power move. If you lie to your husband about faking it, ultimately you are trying to gain a little "card" to have in your back pocket to use when desperate times call for desperate measures. The card that you might pull out in a heated argument, "Oh yeah! well I've been faking it for the past 3 months! So there!!"

This is unhealthy for a relationship. Instead of building on trust and mutual understanding, you are collecting little poker chips to use when the time is right. Humans can sense this, and in turn, your husband will start collecting his own little poker chips to use against you in return.

A man doesnt want to know his wife is faking it, but what he really doesnt want to know, Is his wife is faking it, and then posting a question about faking it on a public blog in cyber space.

Tell him the truth and he will get better, and then maybe you wont have to fake it any longer.

Yip!

Immediately! Unless:

1) You are together at church (I confess, I faked it)
2) You are in the middle of wedding vows (Before "I do" I have to get this off my chest . . . )
3) You are at a family get together (Honey, I faked last night's orgasm. Dad can you pass the salt?)

Communication is vital for a healthy relationship.

Men strive to improve and a good partner would gladly help someone "finish". If you are worried about fragile male ego, Inform him of what he is doing right before and after you tell him what did not go so well. If it becomes consistent work on it together, and keep in mind it works both ways. Just like a man's metal state impacting his ability to perform, a woman's mental state has great bearing on her ability to climax.

The 3 things that will help both partners.

Eat healthy
Work out
Reduce stress

I think any woman would benefit by first thinking seriously and honestly about the result she would be seeking when communicating any such thing. Obviously there is a desirable middle ground between taking out anger and frustration via brutal honesty and being too timid to let him know your needs. That doesn't mean that the male ego is terribly "fragile" or in need of being "protected," it just means that a certain level of kindness is necessary in any real relationship. There are reasonable and gently humorous ways for people to express what they need without hurting their partner's feelings.

As you said, "sometimes it's just not gonna happen." I think it is perfectly acceptable to say that when discussing this issue with him. We're human beings with physical bodies, not robots, and no person of either gender has total control of what his or her body will do or not do on any given day. Also, it helps to assure your partner that the experience was still enjoyable, even without an orgasm. A stable person's ego won't be shattered, especially if their partner is willing to show love, attraction and affection along with gentle honesty and a sense of fun about the situation.

Personally, I wouldn't go on television and announce to the world that I'd been faking orgasms for 24 years:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-leeat-granek/i-dr-laura-berman-sex-exp_b_158012.html

And, females are not the only ones who fake it:
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/23263473/ns/today-today_relationships/

Ultimately, it's not about achieving an A+ for an orgasm every time a couple has sex, or any other unrealistic expectation people put upon themselves.

Shouldn't ever.

You tell a white lie. You want to tell the truth, say it the next appropriate time. I believe honesty is the best policy.

I think the only way someone can fake having the "big O" is if the woman never had one in her life, or the man she is with has never been with a woman that has had one. I mean, it's pretty obvious when it happens. The woman's muscles contract and the male can feel them up and down his penis for goodness sakes. The male can feel it. This would be as obvious as a man saying he did... when he didn't. If neither of them don't know what an orgasm feels like, then by all means lie if you think it makes the male happy. One of these days your eyes are gonna roll back in your head, you'll lose your breath and let out a scream.... and he'll think you've gone nuts. Then try to explain to him what that was.

ALWAYS and I mean always tell your sexual partner that you have faked it. There is no point in a sexual act if one or both partners are not completely satisfied with their sexual experience. What matters is the manner in which your partner is approached about your sexual satisfation. Faking it and not communicating about your sexual dissatisfaction can only lead to infedelity or a complete resentment for the other. For a healthy relationship it is important to always be honest about everything that is bothering you.