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When you're text messaging someone, is it considered rude not to say goodbye or to "leave the conversation hanging"?

What if the person pays for text messages?
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Marked as Best! October 14, 2009 01:53 AM
Text messaging is supposed to be informal and a way to get past all the formalities of a phone call. It's great because you can get straight to the point and state your reason for contact without having to get off-track with the small-talk that comes with working your way into a phone conversation.

I usually try to be clear in my text massages that the conversation is over, but more often than not, either me or the other party will just stop responding. This can happen for a multitude of reasons, we get distracted or busy with the work and things that are going on directly in front of us or we simply feel the conversation is over and there is no need to "properly" end the conversation. Many times, it also can depend on who I'm talking to. Many of my girlfriends and I have rolling conversations that we pick up whenever we get around to it via text messaging. My fiance and I text regularly because he is out of town a lot and if we are into a deep conversation via text, we'll make sure to specify that the conversation is over and one or both of us is done for the night or at that particular time of the day. It really depends on your relationship with the person you're texting and how yall operate.

I still maintain, though, that texting is meant to be informal, so in most cases, no it is not rude.
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October 14, 2009 12:56 AM
Not necessarily in a formal fashion; but you can always say "Well, I'll talk to you later !" as a final note.
Otherwise, it's true that the receipient may wait for your answer and wonder why you didn't reply.
But if the person doesn't pay for text messages, it's not always necessary. :)
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October 14, 2009 12:58 AM
I am a fulltime texter and I don't think I ever completely end a conversation. Never is there any kind of formal ending like goodbye, it's odd but either me or the other person just stops texting. Usually it's a question and answer or comment and then comment back.

I have noticed that people who are fairly new to texting almost always end it with a ttyl or ok see you later or something.

I don't think it's rude, I thought this was how everyone sent text messages.
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October 14, 2009 01:14 AM
No, not at all! One of the beauties of text messaging is its informality and flexibility. Text messages can be sent with or without a greeting and conversations can be ended with or without a goodbye. It's totally up to the texter and the situation at hand. That being said, it would be considered polite to let someone you are texting with that you're going to be unable to respond for a bit. For example, one might say, "it's been great talking with you! I'm about to see a movie. Talk to you later!" to wrap-up a conversation. However, this is solely up to you.
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October 14, 2009 01:36 AM
Instant messaging and text messaging are by their nature informal. I believe that it is implied that these sort of conversations are often carried about concurrent to other things.

I personally never take offense when a text conversation ends abruptly, I assume that something else came up. That is to be expected.

I try to inform the person when I have to leave, but hard as one try, sometimes one just has to go.

As a rule of thumb if a person does not resume the communication within 15 minutes I take it for granted that they had to leave, never is offense taken.
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October 14, 2009 03:29 AM
Well, that all really depends on the person that is being left "hanging" really. It's text messaging, i know its a conversation, but its different. It can either be look at as the same as not saying goodbye on the phone to the person. So it depends on the person. But everyone should know that maybe the person didn't say goodbye because they got really busy. I look at text messages as something that is there for things that a person forgot to tell a person on the phone or in person. Or it's just for emergencies or just gossip. Remember, it all depends on the person that is not getting the goodbye
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