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Would you be embarrassed to tell people that you met your partner online? How about at a bar? Or at an AA meeting?

As long as you are happy with your significant other, should it matter how you met?
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October 08, 2009 05:40 AM
I would not be as I did meet my partner online. 10 years ago. We were both on AOL. . We have been together ever sense and I am proud to say my heart found it's match in California. He came all the way to Alabama to be with me and we have made a wonderful life for ourselves.

If I had met someone like at a party or a gathering at a bar, then yes I would proudly admit I found the love of my life where ever he was. Sometimes things are meant to be and you just stumble into the right location.
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October 08, 2009 05:44 AM
I wouldn't be embarrassed to tell people we met at a bar, drinking is not or shouldn't be frowned upon and if that's where you met than so be It lol atleast you met
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October 08, 2009 07:17 AM
I would not be embarrassed to say where I met my partner whether is was on-line, a blind date, a bar, an AA meeting, a crime scene, or a mud hole. Sometimes, the most romantic and heart-warming stories of meeting, courting, and committing can start in the oddest places for the oddest (or most mundane) reasons.
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October 08, 2009 08:24 AM
That's because you met your partner on Myspace! LOL
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October 08, 2009 07:56 AM
I can't say that I would never be embarrassed, but I tend to be able to be embarrassed and proud all at once. That's because I can laugh at myself. But that doesn't have to be an "odd" place. What if I met someone as I was folding my underwear in a laundrymat?

I would be prouder to meet someone in AA than I would to meet one in an alley as we chugged down cheap wine in our respective cardboard boxes. Embarrassed to meet someone online? Only in the same respect as to meet them anywhere else. After all, I work online, I go to school online so essentially I'm meeting people in my workplace and at school as well if I met them online. (See how neatly I twisted that?)

Honestly I can be pretty silly so I tend to get embarrassed and amused all at once. If i have met someone then I probably have been embarrassed with them and am more likely to think of that and giggle than where we met. If you mean would I be ashamed of someone I met someone..nope, never. I may embarrass myself, but I tend to not do too many things I'm ashamed of.
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October 08, 2009 08:29 AM
I have met a few folks at online dating sites a few years back, but none of them panned out. I'm still friends with two of them though.

I met my bestest friend online, on Myspace, and we don't mind telling everyone that we met on Myspace - it's really a funny little story. Her boyfriend at the time and I had a bit of an exchange of ideas (argument?) and he told her to come check out my page. Later, they split up, but she and I remain friends, and now, nearly three years later, she's my bestest friend!

So no, meeting someone online, friend, lover, partner, husband, wife, whatever... there's nothing to be ashamed of there! I think as the internet starts stretching its reach out into more lives, we're going to see more people who have met and fallen in love online, and more and more people whose best friends live clear across the country or even the world.

The internet makes the world a little bit smaller... and perhaps a little bit cozier too.

As for AA, my mother's second husband (he died from cancer) was in AA and my mother was attending a meeting with a friend of hers when she met him. Usually people who are in AA are proud of their staying sober, so I don't see any reason to be ashamed of meeting someone who shares that similar goal of staying sober with each other.

The pride is the relationship, the strength of it, the love, the friendship and foundation of the relationship. Where or how a couple meets is nothing more than a story to tell. The relationship and the love is all that really matters!
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October 08, 2009 08:32 AM
No way! In fact, I DID meet my partner at a bar! My band was hosting the open mic night there, and she was out having fun with a friend. I was showing off at pool and we caught each other's eyes across the room. The place was so loud that we talked by writing on napkins the entire night. That was seven years ago, and we are still going strong.

And I met her in a bar.
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October 08, 2009 10:19 AM
Of course not... why?

I know lots of couples who met online, and none of them have ever had any issue talking about it.

In fact, I'm scratching my head, trying to figure out why that would be a problem.

People meet in bars, and that's not considered to be a problem. And I know one couple at least who say they met at AA.

People meet at work, and that's normal, even though workplaces are supposed to be the most formally structured situations against that kind of behavior.

Where are they supposed to meet?
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October 08, 2009 12:28 PM
I DID meet my husband online lol I tell people all the time, the story of how you met is how you met. I'm not sure how any of those meet locations are shameful anyhow, but love knows no shame.
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October 09, 2009 01:08 AM
I wouldn't be embarrassed at all! Of course, this is coming from a woman who met her husband at a frat party....introduced by an ex-boyfriend of mine....while we were still dating. Not exactly Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty.

But I tell anyone and everyone and have a good chuckle about it, because what else can you do? Never be ashamed of your life, who you are, and where you come from! Anyone who gives you a snotty look isn't worth your consideration.
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October 09, 2009 04:00 AM
Certainly not. There is nothing wrong in meeting people anywhere and it is indeed creditable if one does find a life partner. Online, bar, AA meeting, Bus stop, social gatherings, movie hall, holiday...and so many more you could imagine are just platforms were you do get to meet people. Well, while there is nothing wrong about saying, but if you do decide to keep it your personal secret so be it after all, finally who cares. It is you left with your partner who eventually matter. :)
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October 09, 2009 04:03 AM
No, it certainly does not matter how you met as long as you are happy with your significant other and the other is honest and genuinely cares and respects you. Online, bar, AA meeting or the street, flight, bus or movie hall are just various platforms where one invariably gets to meet. The place one meets has no relevance after all.
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October 09, 2009 05:15 PM
I already tell people I met my husband online. It's just an interesting fact. It would only be embarrassing if you thought there was something wrong with it. Same with the bar and AA meeting. Each place tells people a little bit about you that you might not want some people to know, but those people aren't likely to be asking where you met your husband. And if they do, just make something up :)
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October 10, 2009 08:31 AM
You do not have to walk for the world, publishing where you met your partner. Those who are interested in where you met your partner, usually ask the question just by courtesy or formalism. This matter really does not interest anyone, except anecdotally.
It is not important how to know each other but how to avoid the separation.

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