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Would you date a man of your dream if he's HIV positive?
If the man is perfect, handsome, kind, smart, wealthy. In short, he has everything you ever dream of and you can easily fall in love with him. But he's HIV positive because of some reason (careless sex in the past, faulty blood transfusion, other reasons). Would you still date him?
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February 08, 2010 07:00 PM
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Honestly, no. I don't think I could handle the stress of always wondering if I was infected. I just wouldn't want to risk it. Condoms break, and a sexless relationship just wouldn't feel like a real relationship. I could be okay with adopting children, but I don't think I could feel like my partner and I were just live-in friends. I would feel bad about it, because I'm sure it's terrible being treated like a leper when you're looking for someone to spend your life with, but I just know that I couldn't be healthy with all of that stress, even if I never got infected. Stress makes me physically sick a lot of the time.
I would certainly be friends with someone who was HIV positive, and support them as much as I could socially and emotionally, but I think I would have to draw the line there. Until they invent an actual vaccine or a cure, HIV is a death sentence (and a painful one), even if you manage to stay healthy for a long time.
I would certainly be friends with someone who was HIV positive, and support them as much as I could socially and emotionally, but I think I would have to draw the line there. Until they invent an actual vaccine or a cure, HIV is a death sentence (and a painful one), even if you manage to stay healthy for a long time.
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February 08, 2010 10:42 AM
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I would be friends yes, but not date as in romantically involved....
even if they offered to be cool about a physical relationship with someone else, to me it would not be enough without physical love as well and I honestly don't know if I could have that type of relationship :(
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even if they offered to be cool about a physical relationship with someone else, to me it would not be enough without physical love as well and I honestly don't know if I could have that type of relationship :(
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February 08, 2010 01:18 PM
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This is a tough question. I want to say yes, that I would be able to over come this. But I'm not sure. I would really have to do some research on the dangers involved. I think the medicines available today would allow the person to live a much longer life than in the past. This is good since I would hate to lose the perfect mate due to the disease taking his life. Unwirlicklich is right in that sex and children are important. Though in fairness not all people want to have children. It is becoming much more common to see childless couples, and that is one option. Adoption, of course, is another. As for the sex part, I don't know the percentage of people who contract the disease if they are really careful.
So, I would have to say, that I would need to do a lot of research and soul searching but I don't think it is out of the realm of possibilities.
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So, I would have to say, that I would need to do a lot of research and soul searching but I don't think it is out of the realm of possibilities.
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February 08, 2010 11:39 PM
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Placing my own life in danger, is not a way to show someone you love them. And while it isn't the only way to show affection, sex and intimacy are important pieces to a healthy relationship. If they cared about me, they would not want to limit my life or the chances of children. They would be willing to accept this, and remain close friends.
If I was already committed to someone, who through a transfusion or accident of no fault of their own, contracted the virus, that would be a different matter.
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If I was already committed to someone, who through a transfusion or accident of no fault of their own, contracted the virus, that would be a different matter.
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February 09, 2010 07:56 AM
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This is tough because you're putting your own safety and well being on the line. I simply don't think it would be worth the risks. Another thing to consider is lifespan, especially since you're weighing the pros and cons of entering a romantic relationship. It's not a nice thing to say or think about, but people with HIV often don't live as long. You may be single again in a lot less time than you'd planned.
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February 09, 2010 08:33 PM
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No, because the man of my dreams would not be HIV positive. I realize that there are some instances where people contract HIV through transfusions and such, and through lying spouses, but being HIV positive is not on my short list of attributes for my dream man. For one, a dream relationship includes the physical aspect, and for me, there could be no physical relationship with an HIV positive man. It's not just HIV. I would not want to be involved with anyone who had a potentially deadly disease that would preclude us from participating in and enjoying any of the activities I would require essential to the "dream" relationship.
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