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Would you date your sister's brother? Read on...
Ok here's a whopper of a question. Now before you attack me with "heck no's" consider this scenario (purely fictional): What if you met an awesome man/woman and fell in love with him/her after some time. Now let's backtrack somewhat and say you grew up with only your mother. Your father, after divorcing your mother, remarried and had another child (your sister, in this case). However, your father's new wife had a son from a previous marriage. This boy has absolutely no blood relation to you (since he's not your father's biological son & has a different mother and father). Now many years later (after you have not been in contact with your father or sister) you meet this awesome, loving guy (or girl, if any male responders want to take on the scenario as well) and think nothing of it while you are dating him. Then one day, your boyfriend/girlfriend shows you a family photo album and you recognize your own father and sister in the photos. When he tells you that these are his step-father and sister, what do you do? Do you tell him that they are your family as well? Would you break off the relationship? Or would the fact that there is no blood relationship be sufficient for you to continue with the relationship?
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November 12, 2009 07:55 PM
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This also raises the consideration of what might have been said about each others families while they grew up.
For instance: I know of a boy, who I will call "Kirk" who has 3 half siblings but only 2 of them are related to each other. He is the result of his parents first marriage. He has a 1/2 brother from his dad's 2nd marriage. Let's call that brother "Jacob". Kirk has a 1/2 sister and another 1/2 brother from his mother's 2nd marriage, "Victor" and "Mary". While growing up, the ex's had many verbal telephone confrontations, and even took each other to court over custody of Kirk. Because they lived 1000 miles away, the 1/2 brother Jacob never met either of the other 1/2 siblings, and vice versa. The one thing the 1/2 siblings did share, was contempt for their parents ex spouse. This being the case, if Mary grew up and met Jacob and started dating him, she would never think he might be related to her family, because they lived 1,000 miles away. Once she found out, however, she should not continue to date him. This is because both families probably have bad blood between them somewhere along the line, and loyalties are very difficult for adults to have when they formed loyalties to their families as children. Those are the strongest ties, family bonds learned as children. It would break those family ties to bond any further with such a person.
So, my answer is NO, I would not date my sister's brother!
For instance: I know of a boy, who I will call "Kirk" who has 3 half siblings but only 2 of them are related to each other. He is the result of his parents first marriage. He has a 1/2 brother from his dad's 2nd marriage. Let's call that brother "Jacob". Kirk has a 1/2 sister and another 1/2 brother from his mother's 2nd marriage, "Victor" and "Mary". While growing up, the ex's had many verbal telephone confrontations, and even took each other to court over custody of Kirk. Because they lived 1000 miles away, the 1/2 brother Jacob never met either of the other 1/2 siblings, and vice versa. The one thing the 1/2 siblings did share, was contempt for their parents ex spouse. This being the case, if Mary grew up and met Jacob and started dating him, she would never think he might be related to her family, because they lived 1,000 miles away. Once she found out, however, she should not continue to date him. This is because both families probably have bad blood between them somewhere along the line, and loyalties are very difficult for adults to have when they formed loyalties to their families as children. Those are the strongest ties, family bonds learned as children. It would break those family ties to bond any further with such a person.
So, my answer is NO, I would not date my sister's brother!
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November 11, 2009 04:24 AM
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Ah, it's like something just out of the movie, "Clueless". Really.
Yes, yes it is fine to go ahead and date someone who is effectively your step-brother. Although a peculiar situation to say the least, it break no moral or ethical codes. ESPECIALLY if you don't lie to anyone in the process. This fictional girl--let's call her Sally--should call her beau--let's call him Dick--all about their connection. Same with the rest of the family.
If Sally's being honest, then she has no need to feel shame in what she is doing or whom she is dating.
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Yes, yes it is fine to go ahead and date someone who is effectively your step-brother. Although a peculiar situation to say the least, it break no moral or ethical codes. ESPECIALLY if you don't lie to anyone in the process. This fictional girl--let's call her Sally--should call her beau--let's call him Dick--all about their connection. Same with the rest of the family.
If Sally's being honest, then she has no need to feel shame in what she is doing or whom she is dating.
http://www.reellifewisdom.com/files/images/clueless.jpg
http://images.starpulse.com/Photos/Previews/Clueless-movie-06.jpg
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November 11, 2009 07:59 PM
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I think I would continue dating that person. I look at it this way, if I found out that my husband right now, was my "brother" I would make sure obviously that there isn't any blood relation and then be ok with it. Because, there isn't anything wrong with it, and why would you give up someone you love dearly for a dumb reason. They are what, like your step brother or something? Yea, I would continue dating them for the sheer reason of LOVE.
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