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You already invited your cross dresser friend for dinner at home. Your partner hates cross dressers. What is to be done now?

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Marked as Best! October 06, 2009 03:02 PM
It's important, first of all, to take the blame for your part in the situation. Here is what I would suggest as a way of conveying your hard earned mea culpa:

"Darling, I'm so sorry that I brought this situation about. I know that you had no fault in this, and I can promise you it won't happen again, but right now, you're the only one who can make this turn out OK. If you want to go to the chicken wing place for dinner, I'll pay. I would rather you stayed here and made an effort to be polite, but I if you're just not interested in that, I accept it and won't hold anything against you. If it makes a difference, I'll go to that Nascar race(something they love that you hate) with you next week if you do this for me."

To tell you the truth, I sort of enjoy when my wife asks me to do something I hate (Like lunch at the purple tea room) because I know I will get a nice BBQ or Steak dinner in return.

Now who could hate cross dressers anyway, have you folks checked out Divine?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AJTccsa4ekM
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skwerly
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October 06, 2009 03:04 AM
You kick yourself, plain and simple. You should never participate in activities or do things that upset your partner. The question reads as if the inviter KNEW their partner hated cross dressers, and invited one home anyway.

Now, if the person in question didn't find out that their partner hates cross dressers until AFTER the fact, then it's a whole other pickle. In that instance, because you owe your partner an honest relationship and respect, and do not necessarily owe the random cross dresser anything, the partner's wishes must be honored. The cross dresser will probably understand.
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October 06, 2009 03:21 AM
I disagree. I would tell my partner that I want them to come to dinner and they should be nice. Why should their feelings take precedence over mine? At some point I'm sure they did something I didn't like so it all comes out even. :)
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mahalo_gjp
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October 06, 2009 03:46 AM
But by doing so you put both your friend and your spouse in an uncomfortable and akward situation into a place that you share with your spouse, your spouse should not have to have an unwanted guest in thier home but you could work around it and go out for dinner with cross dresser
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shewolfsil...
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October 06, 2009 03:58 AM
But then why couldn't my spouse go out so I could have my friend for dinner? I'm sure he would appreciate a night out with the guys anyway. :)
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mahalo_gjp
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October 06, 2009 04:49 AM
That's a great solution if he agrees but be understanding if he doesn't
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October 07, 2009 04:04 AM
I think that you should just talk to your partner about the fact that you invited your friend over for dinner. I think that it isn't fair that just because your partner doesn't like cross dressers then you shouldn't be allowed to bring over a friend who is one. I think that he should at least try to understand that that's your friend, you've known them longer than you've known your partner and you can't just throw away your relationship with them just because your boyfriend/gf doesn't like the way the person is.
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