You should be concerned. There is a lot of abuse from women, but it does not get reported because the men are embarrassed. When the man decides to defend himself, he ends up going to jail. If he did no hit her back, it shows a lot about his caricature, but he needs to talk to someone. This situation is just as bad as a women getting hit by a man. Try to handle the situation before it escalates into something more serious.

It took me showing up with fingerprint bruises on my neck for my friends to do an intervention. Granted I am a girl, there is still much abuse from women. What you don't want is for him in anger to strike back.

Abusive relationships are a cycle that is hard to break. Your son needs to break this before he goes on to more self destructive relationships.

good luck

My husband and I had a situation like this with our son. He is 17 and started dating this girl. He came home one night with bite marks on his shoulder and back. I was livid. I asked him why he allowed this behavior and he couldn't respond. So my husband sat him down and explained to him about abusive behavior and told him that it was not necessary for him to take it. We teach our sons not to hit especially girls but now it seems that the rules are changing. This is now an issue that we openly discuss in our home. This way, the next time he will know that there is no reason to be embarrassed and that we are backing him up.

I would talk to my son, and remind him that no one should hit him. I know abuse goes both ways, and it does not matter if its male or female no one should hit another person out of anger. Its called assault and I would treat it as such.

No, it would not make a difference whether my son was assaulted by a female rather than by a male.
No one has a right to put their hands on someone in that manner or in any other unwanted fashion.

My absolute first step would be to gather the facts. What I see is bruises on my child - heaven forbid if the violence was a shared endeavor.

If I found that it was, I'd march his little butt over to the girl's house where he would apologize to both her and her parents and then depending upon the situation I would ask if they felt he should be held legally responsible. I do not believe it is ever acceptable to uphold for a child in this type of situation.

If medical attention was needed for the girl, I would pay for it and in return he would pay me back by working endlessly until it was repaid.

He would also lose every single item that he enjoyed (car, tv, phone, cell phone, music, video games, etc). He would be grounded for a very, very long time.

The time that he was grounded and separated from the things he normally enjoyed would give him adequate time to complete an anger management course along with volunteering his time.

Hopefully, I could manage to arrange him the experience of working with abused women.

I may even expect an essay daily on the abuse of women in various places in the world. Harsh? Yes, it sure is. I would mean to prove one heck of a point.

Were he to have been an innocent party, I would praise my son for not hitting this girl back. I believe that it takes a much stronger person to control their anger than to release it in the form of violence. This alone would teach him that there is no shame in what happened on his part.

After talking with him and letting him know this type of behavior is unacceptable I would inform him that he should look for a new girlfriend as he would no longer be seeing this girl.

My next step would be to schedule a time to meet with both the girl and her parents. In a very civil fashion I would explain what had happened and that it was unacceptable for whatever reason and that she should no longer call or attempt to see my son again in the future. I would be sure to include the fact that if she went against my wishes or if anything like this ever occurred again she would be facing assault charges.

If any of the marks on my child were to the degree of needing medical condition I may very well press charges anyway. At the very least, I would hold the girl and her parents responsible for the medical bill.

I would hope with all that was within me that once my son seen my reaction to this along with the way that I handled it that in no way, shape or form should he ever remain in a relationship where he is being abused or should he ever, ever, ever inflict abuse on someone.