For myself no. The reason being if it was hetro then I would feel I was not good enough, pretty enough, kind enough, sexy enough, etc. That does alot of damage to a persons soul. If it were a gay relationship thats a totally different field, nothing I can compete with or compare with. Either one would hurt deeply but I have been in the situation and I know, for myself, hetro slices wounds in the heart deeply

Lol! Are you kidding? Oh, heeeelllll no! If I found out that my significant other was having a same-sex affair, I would immediately tell all my friends, and celebrate any way I knew how. Hopefully, by jumping in.

I think it would be less hurtful if he had an affair with another man.

I can't put myself into a position where I can see myself being jealous of a man. I would be VERY jealous if it was a woman, leading to me ripping a chunk of his and her hair out simultaneously...

More or less hurtful? hmmm that would be like being kicked in the head after being hit by a truck. Yes it may hurt more but I don't think I'd be in any state to notice the extra pain.

It would make more sense to me, because while with me they were maybe trying to be someone they're not. It would be just as hurtful though. An affair is an affair and you would feel betrayed either way.

Would it be more hurtful? No. An affair is an affair is an affair. My partner and cheated on me! Either way the relationship would be over. I would assume if it were a gay/lesbian affair some questions would be answered. Other then that they would both hurt the same.

I think there may be a slight difference in my response if my husband cheated with a man versus another woman. First, many times an affair is simply a spur of the moment occurence that happens during a given time under specific circumstances, and although it is likely very hurtful on the spouse who was cheated on, it is important to know the full extent of the circumstances that led to the affair. Finding out the precise reasons for a partner's infidelity may help the betrayed spouse to make an informed and thorough decision on whether to stay with the partner or to pursue a separation. Also knowing the circumstances that led up to the affair or single act of infidelity can help the spouse identify whether the partner is emotionally involved with the other person or if the occurence was simply based on lust (perhaps coupled with the influence of alcohol). Oftentimes involvement in an extra-marital affair may be accompanied by the danger that both husband and mistress are in fact emotionally involved and are planning a life together, while a single act of indiscretion may have occurred simply for “fun”. In this sense, a husband's affair with another woman may oftentimes be based simply on "heat-of-the-moment" type of situations where they met, hit it off, and spent the night together. On the other hand, if a man actually engages in an affair with another man, there may be underlying issues you are not aware of. Sometimes men who married young and did so only to comply with what they perceived as social standards, become curious at some point in their lives on what they missed out if at some time they experienced interest in persons of the same sex. When men do realize after many years of marriage to a woman that they no longer feel attracted to their wife but instead to other men, they do oftentimes seek out extra-marital affairs with a man and develop emotional connections with this person. In this sense, if I found my husband to be involved with another man, I think it would be a more hopeless situation for me, since I would believe that he was seeking something in this individual that I would never be able to provide for him.