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Your friend's husband used your computer to "check his email". After he leaves you discover an open message that contains....

... nude photos from another woman and a message detailing how much she enjoyed spending time with him during a time when he had supposedly travelled for work. What do you do? Should/Would you tell your friend? Or should you just close the open browser window and forget about the incident?
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zebrachick...
zebrachick...
December 06, 2009 01:14 AM
This is just my opinion, but I would tell my friend. If it was me, I would definitely want to know. For health reasons alone, she would need to get herself checked out immediately.
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December 06, 2009 02:51 AM
I totally agree with zebrachick... I would tell my friend as well. It can be done tactfully and without judgement. I would certainly want to know as well.

Yes, I would... and for all the right reasons. :-)
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nikky24
nikky24
December 06, 2009 03:21 AM
I might actually tell the friend's husband that he had left the browser open with the email message. It would be better if he confessed to his wife himself. Maybe the message was not true as he had not been very careful to close it. There could be circumstances that could lead to such things with innocent people. And if he is guilty, he will now have to tell her the truth. Either way he has to give you an explanation first. You can then handle things from there, being supportive towards your friend.
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December 06, 2009 04:52 AM
What it looks like is he wanted you to see what he was doing. Leaving an open email with racy pictures of a co-woker leaves me to believe that he has something else on his mind. Has he ever indicated how you make him feel? Maybe it was his way of hoping that you would think of starting some sort of behind the wife romance. Either way he seems like someone who is looking for trouble. Unless you want to get tangled into his web of decite dont say anything. What you could do is forward the email to your friend with said attachments. By doing this you avoid direct involvement and teach a leason ALWAYS log off a computer when you are done.
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amylou2002
amylou2002
December 06, 2009 06:36 AM
Having a husband who was caught having cybersex via email/messenger, I would definitely want to know if that friend was me. I would sit her down and tell her what I found and show the email/pictures. I'm sure he might try to lie to you or ask you not to tell his wife what you know. I don't think there is any excuse that the husband would give that would be a feasible answer to why he has naked photos of a woman in his email. Did he send a reply back to this woman? I might be able to see she was trying to get him into trouble, but if he sent her something back then that probably isn't the case.
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demanda
demanda
December 06, 2009 03:44 PM
I would forward the email, from his account, to the friend. This way, she finds out about his meanderings and you don't have to get involved. Otherwise, the friend is going to be in the position of choosing who to trust, you or her husband.
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rspears012
rspears012
December 06, 2009 10:21 PM
My loyalty lies with my friend. She deserves to know what I seen. Not telling her is the same as siding with her cheating husband and lying to her. I'd actually leave the message up and let her see it for herself.

What might be interesting is to set up a fake account and arrange to meet him by setting up a fake date. I can see my friend doing that -- least the one I have in mind. Then let him work his triffling way outta owning up to the truth.

Another scenario might be to possibly speak to the woman under his account, get all the detail she (my friend) wants and then inform her how married this loser is. Granted, it would first be ideal to find out if she was married. I'm sure it wouldn't be difficult to discover all that she needed to and then if need be present it to the woman's husband.

It'd get ugly.
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ai-ai
ai-ai
December 07, 2009 12:00 PM
I would not tell my friend right away (because I'm afraid what her reaction will be) but I'll play detective here like what my friend did and it worked. And because he's my husband's friend, I would ask my husband about my friend's husband and the nude woman I saw in his email (and I would search him at popular networking sites using his name or email). I would even forward the email to my own email so I can let my husband see it, too. And if I'd known from my husband that he always did it to my friend and my friend seems to do not know about it then I would ask my friend about her husband and blah blah blah. And then I would tell her as if we should be watchful with our husbands because temptations are just around. And that we should follow our husbands even on their emails without them knowing it. And remember that evil doesn't win in the end. No matter how they hide it, it will soon be revealed.
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della
della
December 09, 2009 09:21 AM
hello, very pleasure to answer ur this question ,maybe u really meet the event in u life ,personally it will be discomfture for me ,in my opinion u should tell ur friend the fact ,good luck for u
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