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October 25, 2009 06:29 AM
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trie talking to the kid ask him/her what is wrong and why is it occuring
somethimes the perents have to do with how the child acts
if it is happening it has to come to an end.
even if you think he/her is not listing to you most problem are solved by talking
tell him/her that what he/she is doing will affect the other kid fells toward the bully and to himself.
make him understand that he is harming that other person and maybe causing traumas
even if he/she thinks that the other person dosent care or wont cause hima any pain make him/her understand that what he/she is doing will stay in the mind of the child being bullyed FOREVER...
i knoe people that still remmember when they were being bullyed in the 7th grade
the best way to deal with this is talking to him and make him understand that harming people is abolute not acceptable!!
if he dosent understand by talking then you should take more control...
if he dosent understand then ask the priciple or the teacher if you could stay in the classroom while they are teaching..the kid will be embassed and maybe stay qiut if he doest ...then you bring something that can timid him..you dont want to do so much because it can bring his selfasteam down..you just have to do it inofe so he know what's it like to fell teased...
dont make it seem like if you do that i will do this to you..or he/she will find someway to outsmart you
SORRY FOR MY BAD SPELLING
somethimes the perents have to do with how the child acts
if it is happening it has to come to an end.
even if you think he/her is not listing to you most problem are solved by talking
tell him/her that what he/she is doing will affect the other kid fells toward the bully and to himself.
make him understand that he is harming that other person and maybe causing traumas
even if he/she thinks that the other person dosent care or wont cause hima any pain make him/her understand that what he/she is doing will stay in the mind of the child being bullyed FOREVER...
i knoe people that still remmember when they were being bullyed in the 7th grade
the best way to deal with this is talking to him and make him understand that harming people is abolute not acceptable!!
if he dosent understand by talking then you should take more control...
if he dosent understand then ask the priciple or the teacher if you could stay in the classroom while they are teaching..the kid will be embassed and maybe stay qiut if he doest ...then you bring something that can timid him..you dont want to do so much because it can bring his selfasteam down..you just have to do it inofe so he know what's it like to fell teased...
dont make it seem like if you do that i will do this to you..or he/she will find someway to outsmart you
SORRY FOR MY BAD SPELLING
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October 25, 2009 02:22 AM
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I think I would sit the child down and try to figure out what is causing him or her to be a bully. And try to get across to them that it is not an acceptable way to behave.
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October 25, 2009 11:13 PM
Well they learned it somewhere, that answer might fit the parent in this situation. :)
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October 25, 2009 05:24 AM
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Most bullies happen because they've been subject to random punishment without a pattern, so check your meds and make sure you haven't been randomly swatting him, and that *especially* includes if you've been getting drunk and/or stoned, and then erratically hammering on him for busting up your buzz.
The second greatest cause is when they're feeling ignored, so, if you've been consistent with him, and have never punishing him for no reason, but you've been extremely preoccupied trying to make a living or salvage a career, then try to make more time to do more things that include him, even if it means dragging him with you to work with you if you can.
Finally, if he's just being a punk, then... in an orderly, structured manner of discipline, it's not unknown nor unaccepted to show him what it feels like.
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The second greatest cause is when they're feeling ignored, so, if you've been consistent with him, and have never punishing him for no reason, but you've been extremely preoccupied trying to make a living or salvage a career, then try to make more time to do more things that include him, even if it means dragging him with you to work with you if you can.
Finally, if he's just being a punk, then... in an orderly, structured manner of discipline, it's not unknown nor unaccepted to show him what it feels like.
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Well, if your child turns out to be the bully... As a parent I would seek the help of councilors or a therapist to get to the root of the problem. Bullying tends to be caused by the child's lack of self-esteem or he/she feels that by doing the bullying they have control and it makes them feel cool to their friends. It could be the child has been abused in some way and they feel the need to act out. I am not laying blame on anyone. I am just trying to help you understand different scenarios that could have lead up to this point. I would definitely try to find the child some help for their troubles and try to make amends with the bullied kids and their families. Unfortunately, children nowadays have social pressures that appear to them to be the norm i.e. sex, drugs, etc. It is difficult for them to talk to parents and adults about these things and they may feel trapped or ashamed of themselves. Seek professional help and try to take things a step at a time. There is hope and I hope that all will be well. Good luck!
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October 25, 2009 09:43 PM
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I would consider at length how it happened and possibly get a therapist involved; not just for the child, but for my parenting skills. I'm not sure a bully ever has an appropriate and loving family situation, so if it's YOUR kid the first thing to do is look inward. I would also try to get as many teachers and staff members at school as involved as possible and attempt to stop the behavior right away, even if the underlying causes may take longer to fix.
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