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I have my own theory on kids eating. I do not force my kids to eat. If I am serving something that I know they won't like, then I always cook something to go with it that I know they will like. If I am cooking something new that they have never tasted and they say 'gross I am not going to eat that', I tell them "you ate it last time and went back for seconds".
If we are going to eat at a friend's house and I know they will not like it then I pack them a special picnic to bring. I have never had a situation where the hostess felt insulted. One told me that the special picnic made it easier for her because she didn't have to worry about the kids not liking it or making sure they had a good time. If the hostess is insulted by me bringing the special picnic for my child (I always check before I go) then I leave my child with a sitter.
Forcing a child to eat something they don't like is doing nothing but causing chaos in their little lives and that never accomplishes anything good. There are things that I won't eat and I will fight you tooth and nail. why is it different for a child. If you have a child that does not like vegies, give them that V-8 fruit juice that has vegies in it. They won't know that it was good for them, only that they liked it. Besides if a child is constantly being forced to eat his broccoli, then when his tastes mature he will never know that he liked it because his childhood chaos has programmed him to never try it. One day he will taste something that has broccoli in it and he will realize that he does like it.
I use broccoli because we had that issue at home. I couldn't get my kids to eat it no matter how I cooked it. One day we had tuna helper that had tiny bits of broccoli in it. They both loved it and now they eat broccoli.
You will have many fights with your children as they continue to reach new levels of maturity. And as my mother always told me "Pick you fights wisely and for the others, resolve them creatively."
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If we are going to eat at a friend's house and I know they will not like it then I pack them a special picnic to bring. I have never had a situation where the hostess felt insulted. One told me that the special picnic made it easier for her because she didn't have to worry about the kids not liking it or making sure they had a good time. If the hostess is insulted by me bringing the special picnic for my child (I always check before I go) then I leave my child with a sitter.
Forcing a child to eat something they don't like is doing nothing but causing chaos in their little lives and that never accomplishes anything good. There are things that I won't eat and I will fight you tooth and nail. why is it different for a child. If you have a child that does not like vegies, give them that V-8 fruit juice that has vegies in it. They won't know that it was good for them, only that they liked it. Besides if a child is constantly being forced to eat his broccoli, then when his tastes mature he will never know that he liked it because his childhood chaos has programmed him to never try it. One day he will taste something that has broccoli in it and he will realize that he does like it.
I use broccoli because we had that issue at home. I couldn't get my kids to eat it no matter how I cooked it. One day we had tuna helper that had tiny bits of broccoli in it. They both loved it and now they eat broccoli.
You will have many fights with your children as they continue to reach new levels of maturity. And as my mother always told me "Pick you fights wisely and for the others, resolve them creatively."
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November 13, 2009 08:36 AM
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The only real answer I can think of is to explain ahead of time before eating at someone elses house that it is impolite to spit out someone elses cooking and try to stress to always try "just one bite" *shamelessly plugs her mahalo page in source* and then if they really don't like it they can just not eat the rest.
That may not work well with young kids as they likely won't understand. You can still try by saying spitting the food out would hurt your friends feelings but at that age they tend to just do what there instinct tells them and if it doesn't taste good it gets spit out. Luckily most people are also understanding of kids that age, just laugh and apologize.
On the note of how a child should respond, I think spitting out is natural at a young age for the above reasons but once some maturity is obtained just not finishing it is usually good indication they don't like it, or if it's my onw kids I'd hope they'd just say, "Mom I don't like this."
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That may not work well with young kids as they likely won't understand. You can still try by saying spitting the food out would hurt your friends feelings but at that age they tend to just do what there instinct tells them and if it doesn't taste good it gets spit out. Luckily most people are also understanding of kids that age, just laugh and apologize.
On the note of how a child should respond, I think spitting out is natural at a young age for the above reasons but once some maturity is obtained just not finishing it is usually good indication they don't like it, or if it's my onw kids I'd hope they'd just say, "Mom I don't like this."
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First of all they shouldn't be "yelling" anything at the table. Sounds like an issue that could easily be covered in home training.
Second of all, whenever anyone (child or adult), comes across something inedible (too hot, a bone, bad taste), they should have been taught to turn their head away from the table and quietly spit it into a napkin, then place the napkin beside their plate. Again, home training would solve this problem, as you can even practice this at meal at home before you go out, it's quite fun to pretend you are at a fancy dinner. You can even talk in your "proper British accents" (no offense, but the british do have a reputation for excellent manners at table).
Third, it's not a bad idea to train the child to whisper to a parent that his food did not taste good. I have recently taken over cooking at my house, and I KNOW there have been times I served food that really was GROSS. I recently tried to make garlic toast and substituted garlic powder fro garlic salt, or maybe vice versa. The toast was WAY too strong to eat. Luckily somebody spoke up (thankfully they didn't yell "Yuk that's Gross"), and we removed the garlic toast from the meal.
There are a whole series of videos available on Youtube on teaching manners to children: here's one for this question:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=govQyJDuDag
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Second of all, whenever anyone (child or adult), comes across something inedible (too hot, a bone, bad taste), they should have been taught to turn their head away from the table and quietly spit it into a napkin, then place the napkin beside their plate. Again, home training would solve this problem, as you can even practice this at meal at home before you go out, it's quite fun to pretend you are at a fancy dinner. You can even talk in your "proper British accents" (no offense, but the british do have a reputation for excellent manners at table).
Third, it's not a bad idea to train the child to whisper to a parent that his food did not taste good. I have recently taken over cooking at my house, and I KNOW there have been times I served food that really was GROSS. I recently tried to make garlic toast and substituted garlic powder fro garlic salt, or maybe vice versa. The toast was WAY too strong to eat. Luckily somebody spoke up (thankfully they didn't yell "Yuk that's Gross"), and we removed the garlic toast from the meal.
There are a whole series of videos available on Youtube on teaching manners to children: here's one for this question:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=govQyJDuDag
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