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How should you respond when finding out your daycare provider has denied your child a meal due to misbehavior?

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Marked as Best! October 26, 2009 08:49 PM
I'd contact the owner of the daycare. Discuss with them the situation, state in no uncertain terms that your child will no longer be attending their daycare because punishment for misbehavior should not mean them missing a meal. I would also let the owner know that you were going to give every parent you could get in touch with a head's up on the matter so that they knew what was going on there. Suggest that the owner correct it, but for the well-being of your child, do not continue using that facility for child care. It is simply inexcusable.

Demand of any future child care facility or person that if they need to correct misbehavior, the only permissible way they can do that is through time outs. If that doesn't work, then they should discuss any ideas for correction they have with you prior to attempting them. And under NO circumstances should their meals be taken away from them (delayed for a timeout at worst, but not by more than 5 minutes).

If there are any other circumstances surrounding why a meal was denied them or taken away, such as your child was starting a food fight, then those matters should be dealt with accordingly and you may consider understanding and being lenient for a reason like that.
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October 26, 2009 03:42 AM
I'd have a talk with the people in charge of the day care. No misbehavior -- especially behavior I didn't even see, and am only going on their word for -- is worth something like that, which would constitute neglect in many cases. Children need to eat.

So I'd ask them to stop doing it, but honestly, I doubt they would. And if it's a private day care, there probably isn't much I can do; in that case, I'd pull my child from that day care and find another one, or find a babysitter on my own. I can't just go on someone's word for a situation like that.
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October 26, 2009 04:17 AM
There no excuse for a punishment being forbidden food. There should be a set of acceptable disciplinary actions. Before any are taken. Talk to the management. Let them know this is not an acceptable punishment.
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October 26, 2009 06:46 PM
Neglect is the word!

How do you think childhood diabetes gets diagnosed? No daycare provider can be sure of all the answers for a child that isn't with them 24/7. If that provider found out the hard way by putting a child into a diabetic coma by denying food, then their punishment could be criminal even murderously so. I would say pull that child immediately from the day care provider and find a new one. I say this from experience. Children can have seizures from lack of food, they can have diabetic shock (from undiagnosed diabetes), and the lifelong consequences of being afraid of the adults in charge of protecting them is a serious and growing problem in this country (USA). Suffer the little children and forbid them not!!!
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October 27, 2009 10:34 PM
One of the key things in making childcare arrangements is coming to an agreement about how your child is to be disciplined and how this will be done. And I really wouldn't be happy with anyone who suggested that they would withhold meals from them as a means of punishment.

If I hadn't agreed to it then I would be furious. To the extent of removing my child from that persons care and complaining to local childcare governing bodies about this form of neglect/abuse. It sounds like the carer had simply run out of ideas, and that is clearly not acceptabe.
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