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You love someone in spite of, and you like someone because. It may not be acceptable, but it is unavoidable if you have more than one child. Studies have shown that a child behaves differently according to his birth order, so even if one child gets the same basic personality traits as the others, each child will be different.
You can no more control your feeling toward one child over another than you can the sun and the moon. Yet, you love them in spite of that, and you always love them equally, which is what really counts in the end. That love should keep you from treating the one you like more preferentially. You would never want to harm any of your children, so, loving them all equally, you would and should try to treat them all with the same love and respect and not show preference.
You can no more control your feeling toward one child over another than you can the sun and the moon. Yet, you love them in spite of that, and you always love them equally, which is what really counts in the end. That love should keep you from treating the one you like more preferentially. You would never want to harm any of your children, so, loving them all equally, you would and should try to treat them all with the same love and respect and not show preference.
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December 14, 2009 09:15 PM
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I am a mother of 3 wonderful girls.
I may sound bad by saying this but,YES it is OK to like one more than the other.Personalities don't always mesh,Child or not.
A mother loves all her kids but sometimes one more than others.It does not mean you do not LOVE them or want nothing to do with them.
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When I am having a bad day and my baby girl is teething really bad and crying ALL DAY and NIGHT,I tend to like my oldest daughter just a bit more than the baby.My middle one sometimes is the favorite one because she is cuddly and sweet.It all depends on my day and each kid.The baby is my priority because she fully depends on me for EVERYTHING.It is very tiresome and exhausting.I sometimes just need to push her to the side for the older ones.
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I may sound bad by saying this but,YES it is OK to like one more than the other.Personalities don't always mesh,Child or not.
A mother loves all her kids but sometimes one more than others.It does not mean you do not LOVE them or want nothing to do with them.
Example-
When I am having a bad day and my baby girl is teething really bad and crying ALL DAY and NIGHT,I tend to like my oldest daughter just a bit more than the baby.My middle one sometimes is the favorite one because she is cuddly and sweet.It all depends on my day and each kid.The baby is my priority because she fully depends on me for EVERYTHING.It is very tiresome and exhausting.I sometimes just need to push her to the side for the older ones.
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December 14, 2009 09:23 PM
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I raised four kids and I have to admit to liking some of them more than others, but I loved them all and tried not to play favorites. It's natural for a parent to get along better with one or more of their kids better than the others, but we don't get to choose our kids' personalities. We may be able to mold them to some degree, but much of our personality is born into us, and there's no guarrantee the kids' and parents personalities are going to match! That's part of the fun(?) of raising kids, I guess.
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December 15, 2009 12:08 AM
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It is natural for many reasons already mentioned, but NOT acceptable. If you don't believe me try telling a few people that you like one child more then the other and watch the glares from others.
I think that the ideal is that a mother's love is unbiased, and people should honestly strive for that ideal even if it is difficult, otherwise it could cause a rift between siblings and in the family itself. I have seen it happen more than once.
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I think that the ideal is that a mother's love is unbiased, and people should honestly strive for that ideal even if it is difficult, otherwise it could cause a rift between siblings and in the family itself. I have seen it happen more than once.
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December 15, 2009 05:09 AM
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I would say "yes." However, liking one kid does not mean you shouldn't/wouldn't love and appreciate all of your kids. Each one is different and has something special about them. I know I am my mom's favorite. She told me when I was 21 that I'm her favorite but it's obvious she loves my 2 brothers too. She connects with us all on the things we are interested in. For me, we talk about culture, politics, that sort. Because my other brother is really into science and computers, they talk about that. Because my oldest bro is really down to earth, they connect on that level. It's about respecting all your kids for what makes them unique.
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