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My two year old has 'fallen out' with one of her toys... it used to be a favorite but now she'll cry if its in the same room? what do I do?
Its the strangest thing. My two year old used to love one of her toys, it went everywhere with her and got cuddled when she went to bed. Lately its like they've had a falling out. They aren't on 'speaking terms' any more and she'll cry if its in her bedroom.
Should doesn't seem to want to talk about it, so what should we do? Ignore it? try for a reconciliation?
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October 19, 2009 08:35 PM
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I would say, first remove any possibility that she is associating another negative event with the toy. Maybe she had the toy when a dog scared her, or a mosquito bit her, or perhaps even a nightmare she had, that she would be associating negatively to the toy.
If any other issue associated to the toy can be eliminated and does not need to be addressed, then I would just suggest storing the toy in the memory box. Who knows, she may even ask for the toy again in the future, if not I'm sure she'll be happy to see it again when she's grown and be grateful that you preserved as a memory of her toddler years.
If any other issue associated to the toy can be eliminated and does not need to be addressed, then I would just suggest storing the toy in the memory box. Who knows, she may even ask for the toy again in the future, if not I'm sure she'll be happy to see it again when she's grown and be grateful that you preserved as a memory of her toddler years.
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• Well it turns on you were right about it being a nightmare issue.
She's fine with it in the day time, although at night now she doesn't want it. Which is fine as there are plenty of toys that don't make it onto the 'night time snuggle team'
She's selected herself a new night time snuggly and is fine at nights now.
Thanks for your help everyone
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October 19, 2009 09:10 PM
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Two year olds do what gets them attention. If having a tantrum over that toy is getting her attention, good or bad, she will continue to do it. Take the toy and put it away, thus removing her source of attention getting. Trust me, she'll find something else to get your attention.
At two, children are testing their boundaries. They are testing you all the time. Perhaps she's testing to see whether you love her enough to remove something that is causing her anguish. If you force her to have the toy around, you are only enforcing her fear that you don't care if she's unhappy or hurt. They don't think logically, they think emotionally.
Trying to figure out why she hates the toy is pointless. She's two. She hates it. Don't force it on her.
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At two, children are testing their boundaries. They are testing you all the time. Perhaps she's testing to see whether you love her enough to remove something that is causing her anguish. If you force her to have the toy around, you are only enforcing her fear that you don't care if she's unhappy or hurt. They don't think logically, they think emotionally.
Trying to figure out why she hates the toy is pointless. She's two. She hates it. Don't force it on her.
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October 19, 2009 09:17 PM
Well we've taken the toy away, and its in another room. She sees it there and she's not bothered by it at all. She'll even pick it up and play with it sometimes, but never for long. The last time I asked her if she wanted it upstairs she said NO! (in that way that 2 year olds do) and I haven't mentioned it since.... so I'm probably going to leave it at that.
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October 22, 2009 04:39 PM
Fear in two year old: http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Child-Behavior/Fear-in-a-2-year-old/show/27666...
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It is common for toddlers to develop fears. Two year olds realize they are separate people from their parents, which creates anxiety.
While it would be easiest to simply remove the toy, this might not solve the problem. Since the child used to keep the toy in bed with her, the crying might be linked to bed time, and being in a room separate from parents.
Try removing the toy and putting her to bed without it , and without a replacement and see what happens. If her crying is based on being in bed, she'll still cry.
Though many parents allow children into the adult bed when sleep difficulties arise, doing so will prolong the problem, in many cases. Resist the urge to put the child in bed with you so that she can make the adjustment of going from baby to toddler, and then to a happy, well adjusted child who is ready for school.
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While it would be easiest to simply remove the toy, this might not solve the problem. Since the child used to keep the toy in bed with her, the crying might be linked to bed time, and being in a room separate from parents.
Try removing the toy and putting her to bed without it , and without a replacement and see what happens. If her crying is based on being in bed, she'll still cry.
Though many parents allow children into the adult bed when sleep difficulties arise, doing so will prolong the problem, in many cases. Resist the urge to put the child in bed with you so that she can make the adjustment of going from baby to toddler, and then to a happy, well adjusted child who is ready for school.
Fear in two year old: http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Child-Behavior/Fear-in-a-2-year-old/show/27666...
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