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March 21, 2010 05:48 AM
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One thing to note that if you forbid your children to play with their friends directly, most of the times, the effort backfires because children are upset when you talk bad about their friends. I just have a student cried during counseling because she was forbidden to be friends with her best friends because her parents thought they were bad influence for her. I don't know if the parents' claims are true or not, but my student is very very upset. Would she sneak out to meet her friends if she can? You bet. Would she feel resentment for her parents for separating her? Of course.
Try to talk to your children and ask about what their friends have been telling them. Then you patiently explain to them what you see is not making sense about the religion or why you think it is not suitable for your family situation. That way, you build a communication with your child and also impart your own thought about that religion.
Try to talk to your children and ask about what their friends have been telling them. Then you patiently explain to them what you see is not making sense about the religion or why you think it is not suitable for your family situation. That way, you build a communication with your child and also impart your own thought about that religion.
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March 21, 2010 05:06 AM
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As long as the preaching to which you refer does not enter the realm of indoctrination, or push for conversion, I would not prohibit my child from befriending or socializing with such a child.
If however, that child's parents were trying to coax my child into their religion; then I would view that as an affront to the domain that I hold in rearing and educating my child.
As long as it remains another child talking about his/her own religion, his/her own customs, maybe even boasting about them; I see nothing wrong in that. I would have prepared my child for such occurrences. In a way, it is healthy for a child to see that there are many beliefs in this world, and that people that hold a certain belief do so out of a personal devotion and passion.
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If however, that child's parents were trying to coax my child into their religion; then I would view that as an affront to the domain that I hold in rearing and educating my child.
As long as it remains another child talking about his/her own religion, his/her own customs, maybe even boasting about them; I see nothing wrong in that. I would have prepared my child for such occurrences. In a way, it is healthy for a child to see that there are many beliefs in this world, and that people that hold a certain belief do so out of a personal devotion and passion.
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March 21, 2010 05:09 AM
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I'd let my children decide. I'd just teach them how to fairly judge religions and spiritual ideas and respectfully communicate with people of all beliefs.
Religious preachers at any age are not necessarily harmful or beneficial. Even if you don't agree with their beliefs, you can learn a lot from listening to them. You and your children can also learn how to politely stop talking to them if and when you want.
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Religious preachers at any age are not necessarily harmful or beneficial. Even if you don't agree with their beliefs, you can learn a lot from listening to them. You and your children can also learn how to politely stop talking to them if and when you want.
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March 21, 2010 08:24 AM
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Sure would..and I'd encourage my child to share his own religion. The child's reaction would deem whether the kid was left on the okay to play with list. i'm betting my kids wouldn't want to play with someone who thought it was there way or the highway anyway.
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March 21, 2010 11:42 PM
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I think that children need to be exposed to all sorts of religions, but if the preaching turns to proseletyzing or indoctrination, then yes, I would call a stop to it. If children are not exposed to religion, they can't make an informed decision about it when they are older.
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March 21, 2010 11:53 PM
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Why not, exposing them to this is how to prevent prejudices when they get older. That is really how prejudice starts by not being aware of different Cultures. If you forbid them then you are teaching them that this is bad. The kid will have his own opinion and decide to hang out with. Unless it was Hari Krishna or some Sung Yung Moon stuff.
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