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If this isn't a pattern, I say give (let's say it's a boy) him the benefit of the doubt. Keep him home and keep an eye on him. If it becomes obvious during the day that he's faking, sit him down and have a talk about what he's avoiding.
Or at worst write it off as one supervised skip day. Sometimes we all need a day-long mental reboot.
My mom was hyper vigilant about skipping and many times sent me to school when I was REALLY sick, citing that she thought I was faking and couldn't "get out of school that easy!" Most of the time my teachers would send me to the office and the office would insist on sending me home. Tends to happen when you vomit in French class. So take it from me, "catching" your kid in the act isn't everything. Sometimes the benefit of the doubt is good.
Now, on the other hand, if this has happened a few times recently and is becoming a pattern then your attenae should be up. Force him to go to school if evidence shows he's faking, and check up to make sure he's actually attending. Speak with school counselors and your kid at length of a major problem is unfolding.
Otherwise, I say give your kid a break. If it's a one-time deal, then it's kind of a rite of passage to fake ill once or twice, isn't it? Didn't you do the same?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipgdynIN3AM
Or at worst write it off as one supervised skip day. Sometimes we all need a day-long mental reboot.
My mom was hyper vigilant about skipping and many times sent me to school when I was REALLY sick, citing that she thought I was faking and couldn't "get out of school that easy!" Most of the time my teachers would send me to the office and the office would insist on sending me home. Tends to happen when you vomit in French class. So take it from me, "catching" your kid in the act isn't everything. Sometimes the benefit of the doubt is good.
Now, on the other hand, if this has happened a few times recently and is becoming a pattern then your attenae should be up. Force him to go to school if evidence shows he's faking, and check up to make sure he's actually attending. Speak with school counselors and your kid at length of a major problem is unfolding.
Otherwise, I say give your kid a break. If it's a one-time deal, then it's kind of a rite of passage to fake ill once or twice, isn't it? Didn't you do the same?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipgdynIN3AM
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October 19, 2009 01:00 AM
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I'd let them stay home, and be sick. :D
Not the.. loving mommy sick either.The here is plain chicken broth un-seasoned for your throat, here is a bed to lay in alllll day long without television or other entertainment so you can rest, here is an awful contraction I mixed up that isn't really medicine (Think juice concentrate)..etc. If home sick is worse than school, play sick doesn't happen.
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Not the.. loving mommy sick either.The here is plain chicken broth un-seasoned for your throat, here is a bed to lay in alllll day long without television or other entertainment so you can rest, here is an awful contraction I mixed up that isn't really medicine (Think juice concentrate)..etc. If home sick is worse than school, play sick doesn't happen.
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October 19, 2009 01:34 AM
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Check for signs of illness. Fever, swollen glands, rashes, productive cough, etc. If everything is fine from that standpoint, ask them to go to school and if they don't feel well, they can go to the nurse's office and ask to go home or take a rest there.
Many kids will change their mind about being in school after they've already gone through the effort of getting out the door and they're already there.
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Many kids will change their mind about being in school after they've already gone through the effort of getting out the door and they're already there.
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October 19, 2009 03:56 AM
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You mean like today :)
Yes, I have my child at home today because she was in such a bad mood she didn't want to go to school - didn't lie, she told me. She doesn't need to lie because I've always allowed my kids to have 'mental health days'. She knew that if she went to school today she would have a terrible time so I let her stay at home. I'm talking about a moody teenager but with young ones it can be just as difficult at school some days......
School is suppose to be fun. If the day is going to cause that much stress to my child ( for whatever reason ) then its not worth it. I want them to enjoy school and they know they can't just take time off for nothing - ie there will be homework and catching up to do.
but wow, adults chuck a sickie every now and then....kids can too :)
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Yes, I have my child at home today because she was in such a bad mood she didn't want to go to school - didn't lie, she told me. She doesn't need to lie because I've always allowed my kids to have 'mental health days'. She knew that if she went to school today she would have a terrible time so I let her stay at home. I'm talking about a moody teenager but with young ones it can be just as difficult at school some days......
School is suppose to be fun. If the day is going to cause that much stress to my child ( for whatever reason ) then its not worth it. I want them to enjoy school and they know they can't just take time off for nothing - ie there will be homework and catching up to do.
but wow, adults chuck a sickie every now and then....kids can too :)
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October 19, 2009 07:23 AM
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I recently read a story for childern which answered this question.
It went something like this:
Mom is waking up several kids in the morning. Joey covers his head with blanket & moans pretending stomach pains. Mom asks whats wrong & Joey complains of aches & pains. Mom leaves room and tends to others. A few minutes later Joey calls her for a drink. Mom responds by having reservations if she should come in close contact with him since according to his symptoms it sounds like something serious. Joey asks if its the swine flu & she's responds that it sounds like something much worse(gives name of fictitious illness). Joey suddenly is completely recovered and is getting ready for school.
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It went something like this:
Mom is waking up several kids in the morning. Joey covers his head with blanket & moans pretending stomach pains. Mom asks whats wrong & Joey complains of aches & pains. Mom leaves room and tends to others. A few minutes later Joey calls her for a drink. Mom responds by having reservations if she should come in close contact with him since according to his symptoms it sounds like something serious. Joey asks if its the swine flu & she's responds that it sounds like something much worse(gives name of fictitious illness). Joey suddenly is completely recovered and is getting ready for school.
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October 19, 2009 04:28 PM
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If I suspect, there is faking, then I will let her stay home for the day and rest for one hour. Then, will give the breakfast and ask how she is doing. If she feels better, i will sit with her and will have a loving caring conversation about what makes her sick. It really worked before. The assurances that I love her whatever happen, always give her the courage to talk about her problems. It happened before. She was upset with her friend misunderstood something she did. She didn't wanted to go to school the next day. She told me she is having pain on her foot. Since I suspect something from her face, we had a talk. When i told her she has the freedom to tell me if she has any problem, first she cried, then she told me what happened. I just hugged her. Encouraged her to talk about her feelings. Told her stories from my own school days and the troubles with some kids. How I overcame the feelings etc etc. I am glad i did that. Our connection became stronger. She was ready to tackle the problem by herself the next day. Also, she found out her other friends support and like her. They were helping her to solve the problem with this particular girl.
It is always good to have a friendly talk and suggestions for problem solving. Being unkind will not make the problem go away.
I believe, kids need the love and advice. Punishment is the last option.
. Trust them first. Then observe them to figure out what is wrong. That is my policy and it works with my kid.
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It is always good to have a friendly talk and suggestions for problem solving. Being unkind will not make the problem go away.
I believe, kids need the love and advice. Punishment is the last option.
. Trust them first. Then observe them to figure out what is wrong. That is my policy and it works with my kid.
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