You do not say whether he is still in a relationship with his wife or not, merely that he is still married to her. Who is his commitment to in a relationship, you, her or just himself? If he is still with his wife in an ongoing marriage that is still viable, he is hardly likely to consult with you as to what he can or cannot do. But if he is not with her other than in a legal bond and you are his partner then he should respect you enough to include you in decisions.

If he is still with his wife and you are a his bit of fluff on the side it doesn't say a lot about about his respect for women in general. If that is the case, he may not care what you think about how he spends his time one way or the other. Sit down and evaluate your situation and your relationship realistically.

Have you voiced your concerns directly to him and what was his reaction if you did? If it bothers you, you do have a right to speak up and say his behaviour is bothering you. If he isn't willing to listen or discuss it, or the relationship is tentative then maybe you should think about severing it or setting boundaries that are acceptable to you. You are entitled to respect.

For whatever reason he decided he did not have to consult with you. Figure out why. Talk to him.

1. Because he's self-absorbed

2. Because he's not actually "your boyfriend", he's someone else's husband! He is that first and foremost and has to answer to his family first, not you. You are not top priority in his life and you need to know that.

Let that absorb for a minute.

You are not his top priority.

If you were, he would respect you enough to give you notice of leaving town. He would respect you enough to commit to a relationship with you and ONLY you.

But based on the fact that he doesn't respect women enough not to cheat on his wife, that tells me that he probably isn't about to change and start to respect you anytime soon.

IN SHORT: Walk away. Go now. Getting involved with a married man was a mistake because you will always question his loyalty and always have issues with trust and commitment. And here it is right now staring you down.

Just realize that this guy is never going to clue you in. He's out to have a party, and you're the party favor right now. You are worth more than that! Walk away and tell him he needs to find another party favor to play with.

Good luck! :)

He thinks he can do what he wants because you let him. As long as you put up with whatever he does that annoys you, he will keep doing stuff.

Because he can. Because you allow yourself to have a "relationship" with a man that is another woman's husband.

Because you let him. As for being their for a friend whos son died well thats a totaly different story. It kind of sounds like he has no mannors. As for not divorcing his wife maybe still has a need to be in her life. Let me guess, he looks at himself in the mirror lots . He likes to dress nice , has more then 3 pairs of shoes. Needs time to get ready when you both go out to "look good". Life revolves around him. If hes not the center piece than he feels out of place. It sounds like Narcissistic Personality Disorder. You need to ask yourself why you stay. It seems that your unhappy. If he hasnt devorced his wife then maybe hes hiding something from you. I believe he dosent think hes doing anything wrong so he continues on the same pattern until it affects his daily routine.